Friend of the Family News Letter

Family Issues

This morning, as I was riding in the car, I heard a program host read an announcement sent out by a young lady. It said “Excited – Expecting – Engaged” The host who read the announcement thought it was wonderful and was happy to say the announcement had gone viral. And that folks is where we are in America.

As we saw in I Corinthians 7: 1-2 in our last article, God denounces pre-marital intimacy, along with all forms of immorality. We have no reason to think the young lady mentioned above is a professing Christian, but there was a time, when the unsaved would have been shocked to hear “excited, expecting and engaged”, coupled together in a public declaration. It seems we have lost the cultural battle in our Country and it is unlikely that we will ever again establish moral norms for our society. Today, a single young woman is commended if she is willing to carry an unwanted baby to term, rather than get an abortion. Of course, we would never want to end the precious life of a little one; that would make things worse. Our challenge however, is how do we get Christians to return to the high biblical standards of purity, where pregnancy outside of marriage could never occur?

Successful parenting of teens is no easy task, but it is not only possible; it is an absolute necessity. As young people reach the teen years they begin undergoing great changes physically and emotionally. They will have a broadening of experience in developing friendships, doing new things and facing new temptations. These changes, and the challenges that come with them, call for wise, tender, loving, balanced, affectionate and personal parental guidance. Of course, those parental qualities should be present in every phase of a child’s development and training, but the teen years will be a testing time. Perhaps one of the greatest elements of the test will be to see if those qualities so necessary for walking with our teens, were present in the earlier years of our child’s life. If parents failed to establish sweet relationships and open lines of communication with their children early on, there will be little hope for a close walk with their teenagers. Young people desperately need the freedom to talk to mom and dad about everything. They will talk to someone – who may not have their best spiritual, emotional and physical interests at heart. Many people come looking for help in dealing with their 16 year old. If only they had gotten help when he/she was a 6 year old.

Trends &Troubles

Thomas W. Phelan’s book, All About Attention Deficit Disorder. On Page 73 of his book, Dr. Phelan writes, “…there is a higher incidence of marital dissatisfaction, separation and divorce in families where there is an A.D.D. child”. I posed the question, does the A.D.D. child cause the marital problems, or do the marital problems produce the A.D.D. child? Actually, Dr. Phelan mentions this issue earlier in his text, but quickly announces he does not want to create any level of unnecessary guilt on parents. In fact, the greatest influence on children, whether positive or negative, is parents.

The ideal home will have a father and mother, who provide a wholesome atmosphere of spiritual, emotional and physical stability and security. The parents will have a strong loving relationship and a close walk with the Lord. The father will provide for the physical and financial needs of the family, as well as giving God honoring leadership to all, including guidance and biblical discipline to the children. The mother will be able to be at home to provide care, and give attention to the needs of the children. Essential to achieving stability and security for children are such things as standards of behavior, appropriate manners, respect for others and obedience to instruction. A wholesome diet should be high on the list, along with a time to get up and a time to go to bed. Add to these things, the need to give personal attention to the unique needs of each individual child, so one gets lost in the shuffle. There is much more, but you get the idea.

It will be extremely rare in the family just described to have any child diagnosed with A.D.D., A.D.H.D., O.D.D. or any other of today’s typical childhood “mental disorders”.

It is significant that while medications are often suggested for treatment of these problems, most recognize the need for proper training and discipline as the pathway to success. Remember, all these problems are behavioral. God’s Word teaches us how to rear godly, disciplined, responsible children. Today’s problems are primarily due to parental failure. Parents seldom invest the necessary time and effort to learn what the Bible teaches regarding child rearing. In the Scriptures we find direct instruction, but we also find illustrations of parental success and parental failure from biblical characters. Once we have a good understanding of what we as parents should do, we then must invest the time and energy necessary to fulfill our parental obligations. We typically have a child under our care and guidance for the first 18 – 20 years of his eternal existence. Those years will produce a young person, who will forever reflect what happened in our home during his youth. Scary, isn’t it?

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For The Family

One of my personal prayer burdens, and one which I often try to convey to others, is that when we get to the other side, we don’t want anyone missing. Someday we will be on the other side. Life is short and thankfully there is a place called heaven. Moses prayed in Psalm 90: 10 -12. Please take time to read it as we have quoted it here. The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away. Who knoweth the power of thine anger? Even according to thy fear, so is thy wrath. So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. When I think about these things, I am mindful of the brevity of my own life, but this I know. When life is over, I will be carried by the angels into the presence of my God. Too many have passed on, when there was no certainty and little hope that they entered heaven when they died. Toward some of them there was much effort made to win them to Christ, but they died in open rejection of His offers of mercy. Toward others less effort was made and they too died without Christ. Some were religious, some were not, but they all died having never been saved. Unfortunately, there are many in our extended family who have never put their faith in Christ alone for salvation. How much time do they have left on the earth? No one knows. And what if Christ returned today?

What about your family? How many are not saved? What effort is being made to reach them? Have you given up on some? Have you perhaps lost your burden for some? Have they angered you or chosen a path that has destroyed any compassion you might have for them? Or perhaps you have simply become weary in prayer and effort, because of their apathy toward spiritual things.

Gather family members in a renewed effort to win the lost. Pray; witness; send a note; enclose a tract with a card; ask the Lord for that chance to speak one more time; or that He might bring someone else into their life to be a witness. The last day of opportunity will come all too quickly. Just like you, I have some family members who cause me frustration, some I would rather not be around, some who have lived in the depths of sin, but I know their only hope for time and eternity is the compassionate Christ, who saved me when I know I deserve the depths of Hell. Make this a family effort, because we will gather on the other side. What if it were today? Who would be missing?.

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God is looking for men…

Is He looking for you?

Romans 12:2 says, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God” There is a simplicity about this text. It is written to born again Christians. It defines our life as either being conformed or transformed. When we are saved we are being “formed” in some way. We can just slide through life, looking and acting like the world around us OR we can yield to the Lord and let Him transform us into real men of God. God wants a man to be transformed, so he can be used for God’s glory. Are you willing to be that man?

From Under the Umbrella

By Patricia E. Griffith

Here we are again, at a very special time of the year ~ Christmas. Psalm 107:2-3 says “Let the redeemed of the LORD say so, whom he hath redeemed from the hand of the enemy; And gathered them out of the lands, from the east, and from the west, from the north, and from the south.” I am so thankful for another opportunity to send greetings to family, neighbors and friends, who do not know the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior. It is such a blessing to greet them, to tell them again the true meaning of Christmas and invite them to accept the free gift of salvation. We have many loved ones and friends who are very religious, but they have not come to know Christ. May this Christmas bring a great harvest of souls of many for whom the Lord Jesus died. What a wonderful gift that would be for them, and for us! Have a very blessed and precious Christmas time, dear readers.

Year End Thoughts.

We offer our praise to the Lord and our thanks to you, as we close 2017 and prepare for 2018. The Lord has given us a wonderful year, both in our ministry and in our family life. We were blessed to have our first great grandchild brought into our family. Also, two more granddaughters got married. As our family grows and expands it has been wonderful to see the Lord honored in the lives of our children and our children’s children.

Please accept our sincere appreciation for standing with us in prayer and financial support. We pray for the opportunity to encourage families to live in full surrender to the Lord and His Word. No family is perfect, but the heartache in many Christian families is overwhelming. God’s Word gives us all we need to know about life and love. We must simply follow what He says. That is where we find the blessing.

And – we hope you have a wonderful Christmas!


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Biblical Family Ministries Inc. is a 501(c) 3 non-profit Christian ministry established in 1993 to present the Bible’s teaching on marriage, family, child training and other Biblical topics. Dr. E. Allen Griffith and his wife Patricia, work together in this ministry located in Myerstown, PA. They are assisted by Kimberly Schmelzer.

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