Friend of the Family News Letter

Family Issues

Sometimes the lines of communication get broken. While prevention of problems is far better than curing of problems, once the problems exist, they must be resolved. As we have seen in the teachings of the Apostle Paul on communication; we are exhorted to speak truth in love, deal with problematic issues quickly, don’t let the devil get any victories and communicate in very positive ways. If and when all of that falls apart, we can end up grieving the Holy Spirit. Paul affirms in Ephesians 4:30 that when we are saved, we are sealed by the Holy Spirit, and thereby are guaranteed our eternal salvation. At the same time our Christian walk can be seriously affected, if the Holy Spirit is hindered from doing His work of sanctification. The Spirit of God is not an emotional being and therefore not sorrowful or sad when things go wrong. If He was, He would be continually sad as He deals with Human beings. The grieving of the Spirit includes a heaviness or distress regarding our spiritual condition. The work of producing His fruit, as listed in Galatians 5 is seemingly put on hold. Someone once said, when the Spirit is grieved, He has to work on us instead of working in us and through us. None of us can afford to grieve the Spirit. Not only will our spiritual growth be hindered; we will follow a downward spiral and which may leave us worthless in having any testimony for Christ. I want to emphasize this truth, because as we read verse 31, and all that is listed as evidences of grieving the Spirit; there are too many Christians who seem to be fighting and losing this battle. As I often say when I address this matter in preaching, “You cannot live in verse 31.” If you find yourself in verse 31, you must get out of it. How many relationships have been ended because of the problems listed in verse 31. Notice, they are reactions to what someone else has done or said. The first area mentioned is bitterness. Bitterness destroys people. It is extreme irritation, that can turn to out and out hatred. Hebrews 12:15 speaks of a root of bitterness, illustrating the depth of hurt that created it and the depth of feelings that continue it. The verse tells us bitterness will spring up bringing trouble to the one who is bitter and defile (contaminate) others. I have met many bitter people and concluded that anyone could be bitter, because everyone has been hurt by others. But praise the Lord, not all are bitter and no one has to be bitter. But, are you bitter? I grew up somewhat bitter at the father I never knew. I came to realize that bitterness would destroy my life. I am glad, by God’s grace, I took care of it. More next time.

Trends &Troubles 

 As we continue to discuss spiritual conflict, we come to the greatest weapon at our disposal. It is the blessed Word of God. It is described in Ephesians 6:17, as the sword of the Spirit. It is foundational to everything else we have seen.  We talked about truth, but ultimate truth can only be found in Scripture. We saw the importance of righteousness, but knowing what is right can only be found in the directives and principles found in the Bible. The Gospel of peace in the message of the Bible and the faith to shield us is our belief and trust in what the Bible says. The helmet of salvation refers to the salvation taught in Scripture, which is given as a gift to those who believe the biblical message of the person and work of our Lord Jesus Christ. We rejoice in the Word of God. The Greek term for word in Ephesians 6:17 is rhema. It means, that which is uttered or written. It is the communication of the message. The wonderful encouragement here, is that the power of the Scriptures is in the hand of the Holy Spirit and not dependent on our ability to make the argument. Without a doubt, you and I should study the Bible and be proficient in using it. Whether someone gets saved or is convinced to change their views however, is not dependent on us. We need to know the Word well enough to find texts that convey God’s truth on an issue and hopefully be able to convey the message to others, or even claim it for ourselves. Is it not wonderful though to realize, the Word of God is quick and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intent of the heart? Hebrews 4:12. The Word (logos) is infused with life by the Holy Spirit. Our feeble efforts to claim it or proclaim it, are taken by the Holy Spirit and used to pierce hearts; convicting, challenging and convincing. The Spirit of God works through the Word of God. The Holy Spirit gave revelation to men. Then, He secured the transference of that revelation to the written page and used men to do it. That is the work of inspiration. When the Word of God is read, taught or preached, it is that same Holy Spirit who opens the mind and hearts of men to receive it. That is the work of illumination.\

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Is He Looking for You?”

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For The Family

We have been discussing parental authority and parental influence on children. In this article we will focus on parental authority. God gave us 5 children. I love and am grateful for each one of them. I acknowledge again, God gave them to me and my wife. However, he did not give them to us, so we could rear them our way. He gave them to us to rear and train – His way. Thankfully, in the Bible, He gave us instructions on how to train Children with a view toward them serving and loving Him for a lifetime. As I often say in conferences; it is important to realize He gave us only one book, sufficient for all children. Of course every child is unique, but the goals and principles related to training children are the same for all. Some children will be tougher to train than others. Some will be strong willed, stubborn and defiant. Others seem to be born liars, sneaky and deceptive. Others are compliant and tender. Some are quick and witty. Others are slower and gullible. On it goes and NO TWO ARE THE SAME. Great hope is found in Proverbs 22:26. It says, Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it. I love this text. As we said, it gives great hope. It is possible that our children will grow up to live a lifetime devoted to the Lord. What more could we want? The verse also establishes great responsibility. The child must be trained. The hope for the child is related to the training he/she receives. Responsibility for training is assigned to parents. It is no wonder our society is collapsing. Multitudes of children are growing up in home settings where training is nil. Broken marriages, children born out of wedlock, mothers working, children in continual day care programs and many other biblically abnormal situations undermine the opportunity for children to be trained effectively by parents – even very caring parents. The promise and hope of our verse is dependent on success in the training experience. Training requires control of the child’s behavior, to which we alluded at the close of our last article in this column. We will take up the detail of control and other aspects of training next time. Training our children biblically is how we carry out our God given authority over them.

God is looking for men…

Is He looking for you?

In I Kings 2:1-2 we read, Now the days of David drew nigh that he should die; and he charged Solomon his son, saying, I go the way of all the earth: be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man. I was intrigued and challenged by what David said. Show thyself a man. What did that mean to Solomon? He was going to become the King of Israel. You and I don’t have that to worry about, but that was only part of the matter. To be a man, can mean many things to many people. In verse 3 David gave some explanation of what he meant for Solomon. David said, Keep the charge of the LORD thy God to walk in His ways…that thou mayest proper in all that thou doest and whithersoever thou turnest thyself. The term prosper is not of itself related to wealth. It means to have prudence, skill and wisdom. To show himself a man, or dare I say, to be a real man, is related to one’s walk with God. Too many think being a real man is reflected in coarse language, physical strength, physical appearance, financial success and a host of other things. David told Solomon that to show himself a man, he needed to walk in the ways of God. ARE YOU WILLING TO BE THAT MAN?

From Under the Umbrella

By Patricia E. Griffith

Jeremiah 33:3. Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not. I am so thankful for my salvation and for the privilege of walking beside my husband, serving a Risen Savior for all these 54 years. I can’t thank the Lord enough for His wonderful leading and blessings all these 73 years of my life. And, I can hardly believe all that He has done.

I am so excited to see what this new year holds for us! I’m so thankful for our good physical and mental health, and the future before us to serve Him. I love a new year; a new beginning! I hope you have a great plan for serving our Savior in 2020. I believe we need to be busier than ever, winning the lost to Him! The signs of the times certainly would dictate the soon return of our Savior to take us to Heaven in the air!

God created days and years,

God allows both joy and tears,

God removes the greatest fears,

Of all who trust in Him.

Christians serve Him day by day,

Walking in the narrow way,

Grateful for the times to pray,

Because they trust in Him.

Now we wait to see Christ’s face,

As He prepares for us a place, Fulfillment of salvation’s grace,

For all who trust in Him.

Even, so come, Lord Jesus!

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The Christian Response to Culture Collapse in the USA - $2.00.

Does it Matter? – A look at Bible manuscripts and versions - $8.00

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Victory Over Trial and Trouble – hard back book on getting real victory in life - $13.95.

Parenting: One Chance to do it Right - $12.95.

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Biblical Family Ministries Inc. is a 501(c) 3 non-profit Christian ministry established in 1993 to present the Bible’s teaching on marriage, family, child training and other Biblical topics. Dr. E. Allen Griffith and his wife Patricia, work together in this ministry located in Myerstown, PA. They are assisted by Kimberly Schmelzer.

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